A Year of Love

One year ago today, I said “I do” to loving my wife ‘til death do we part. Those words were the beginning of something amazing. A year into marriage has brought along so many blessings, trials and lessons—all ones that I am so glad to learn about.

Out of the many things that I have learnt, two things have stood out and stuck with me: love really is the answer to everything, and you are not alone anymore.

Now, these two things seem like the most obvious things that I could mention, or the things that do not seem that mind-blowing, but they are to me.

Once you get married, you and your partner are with each other twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week—minus any hours for work, study etc. So much can happen within those hours: laughs, fights, tears, relaxation, stress… And within those hours, all of those bunch of crazy things need to be dealt with in one common way–with love. It’s cheesy, I know, but it really can be easier said than done.

In the spur of a moment, that terrible side of us that we worked years on putting away can burst out and cause havoc. And it is that moment where things can change. But no matter what happens, keep love at the surface. We are far from perfect, which is why we need God’s perfect love to help us with imperfection.

So, we use it.

We use His love to strengthen and nourish our marriage as God allows the growing to happen. When you find yourself knocking heads with your partner over a small or big issue, draw all focus to love. When it seems impossible to see the other side of what you are going through, remember that it is always possible to see God and place Him in the centre of your relationship.

He wants to be in the middle of our marriage, not because He is egotistical, but because He is love itself, and He is able to fix things when we can’t. When we don’t understand what is happening, He wants us to hand it over to Him. And so we should.

Let our loving God be the centre of our marriage so that He can strengthen it and allow Him to allow you to grow from that issue. Move forward in love.

Together.

Togetherness is what marriage is and what it should always be.

No matter what you are doing, no matter where you are, marriage tends to hand over a secure feeling of not being alone. When you say “I do”, you are merging your heart with your partner’s. You share the same heartbeat, truly living as one.

Together, you can do so much! Opportunities seem to line-up that allow you to grab in order to bless those around you. When and if you think you are not good enough for anything, your partner is there to remind you that you are the opposite.

It is OK to feel like you cannot do something on your own because, well, you need to realise that you aren’t on your own and that you can accomplish so much more with your partner by your side. You sort of become this dynamic duo that is ready to impact the world whether it’s the small world around you or on a much grander scale!

Either way, you are coming together in love, ready to grow! Be open to moving forward towards a place where you are able to help others. It may sound difficult to do, but it really isn’t. You share a powerful thing and it can be used to help grow each other as a husband and wife and help grow those around you.

Remember that God is not selfish with His love, so try your best at being selfless with yours! Marriage is not a chore and it should never feel that way. Marriage is a blessing–a gift–that we need to appreciate, celebrate, take care of and share its blessings.